June 15, 2020 | Tagged Parenting,
How to handle parenting when you or your child is in pain
Parenting is a hard job; it requires our best. Being in pain or seeing our children in pain is very difficult. We parent our worst when we’re at our worst. When we are hungry, tired, frustrated, or overwhelmed we can be poor parents. Learn to be a good parent even when life is difficult; even when you are stressed.
Most of the issues that you wrestle with come because of poor pain management strategies.
a. Problem One: Parents who hate conflict tend to raise disobedient and unruly children. Why?
Because the parents didn’t want conflict and therefore did not enforce the boundaries every home requires. Avoidance of pain creates more pain in the future.
b. Problem Two: Parents have too much stress and don’t actively manage their stress but take it out of their children.
c. Problem Three: Parents want a comfortable life and a life of ease. Parenting is not easy. It’s hard work. It’s easy to yell or to zone out using social media. It’s tough to lovingly require the best of our kids by being a patient and consistent parent, by being present, requiring excellence, and walking through character development. Just like it is more “comfortable” to sit in a chair than it is to run a mile until that mile because the more comfortable than the chair, parenting through armchair tactics and easy half efforts are very different than good, intentional parenting
A note to parents on comforting your kids when they are in pain.
Be a parent who is skilled at comforting your child when he or she is in pain. Many parents struggle with this. When a child is in pain, parents feel this pain and can unconsciously become angry at the child or the situation and make the scenario more intense and aggressive. The comfort you can provide your son or daughter is incredibly healing. It can be hard to comfort well if we haven’t had a quality example of comfort ourselves. That way those who don’t know how to comfort often are in the greatest need of comfort. Like anything worthy in life, comfort is a skill to improve. Comfort isn’t a quality demonstrated only by a certain few, it is a virtue that can be strengthened with wisdom and purpose.
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