September 09, 2022 | Tagged Parenting,
12 quick steps to improve your son or daughter's confidence
Seeing your son or daughter struggle with self-confidence is tough as a parent. Be wise about how you deal with this struggle.
Typically, a child's struggle with self-confidence means you personally may have a lack of healthy self-confidence. Often there are threads of generational trouble that will tempt you to pick the wrong tool to solve the problem. Some parents choose anger and frustration to try and move their kids out of a lack of confidence. They get angrier and yell to shoot the ball or get your head in the game. Some parents choose ego to solve the issue and try and prop up the confidence of their children through comparison to others or cutting down the coach or teammates. Blame always brings lower self-esteem and unhealthy ways of living. Avoidant parents who are not present for the struggles of their children escape responsibility through their own self-insulation.
12 Ways to Improve Confidence
1. Eliminate all comparison
2. Deal with your own bitterness and hurt
3. De-escalate the intense joy or sorrow you connect to your children’s external success
4. Find excellence in what you pursue not what your kids pursue
5. Be resilient through hardship
6. Eliminate soul-sucking activities and instead do something to build your own talent
7. Get off social media if it is a waste of time
8. Set goals for yourself and be a higher achiever yourself
9. Value your children for who they are not what they do
10. Base your happiness on intrinsic values not on external success
11. Think more noble and wiser thoughts
12. Feel more joy, peace, and gratitude
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